 People tend to gravitate towards people they find interesting in a good or even a slightly offensive way.
One way to make friends without compromising your integrity is to show your fun side. Even shy, quiet persons have something interesting to share or can see the humor in situations. All you have to do is find the courage to share your funny thoughts without looking like you're trying too hard which would be counter-productive. Peer pressure is one example of how you can use wit to get out of an uncomfortable solution. Teenage years are the most common for peer pressure and this happens because this is the time for "finding yourself" and building friendships that can last a lifetime. However, we may find ourselves with a mixed bag of friends, some of whom may want to embarrass you or make you less popular. Let's say sometime is trying to pressure you to smoke marijuana. You can say something witty like "dude, that smells like c***, I'm not smoking that!" Although this response may seem a bit crass it's the right tone that would make sources of peer pressure laugh and be offensive enough to make them stop pressuring you. I remember some of my friends trying to get me to sit in my boyfriend's lap at the mall. Although I would have liked that as well we were not in an appropriate environment for that behavior so I said "why should I sit on his lap? He should sit on my lap instead". I knew he would never want to do that in public so I used that knowledge to deflect and everyone laughed and the situation went away. The point here is that you have options and noone should force you to do something you do not want to do. You also have an effective arsenal at your disposal in the way of your sense of humour. If none of this works or you're too shy to speak up that's fine too. Be yourself and don't go against who you are. Perhaps find a new group of friends who appreciate you for you and won't pressure you into anything.
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